dimitrov@csd2.UUCP (Isaac Dimitrovsky) (02/24/85)
[] Well, I'm not sure how this is going to turn out, so please bear with me. Here are a few questions to consider. Please don't send me responses, since this isn't intended to be a survey. These questions are just supposed to be thought-provoking. Have you ever seen a network TV `mature' program (i.e. nighttime soap, wet-tshirt cop show, daytime soap, etc.) where a man and woman about to have intercourse were seen to use a birth control device? How about a movie? How about one where lovers mentioned birth control? (For women) Did you use birth control the first times you had intercourse? How often do you not use it now? (For men) How often have you confirmed before having intercourse with a woman that some kind of birth control was being used (either by asking the woman or by using a condom)? I guess what I'm trying to say is that while it's supposed to be mature and responsible to use birth control, for some reason we seem to be conditioned not to in many cases. I'd be interested in hearing any reactions to this. Isaac Dimitrovsky
dana@gitpyr.UUCP (Dana Eckart) (02/27/85)
In article <4160002@csd2.UUCP> dimitrov@csd2.UUCP (Isaac Dimitrovsky) writes: >(For men) How often have you confirmed before having intercourse with a >woman that some kind of birth control was being used (either by asking >the woman or by using a condom)? I can honestly say that I have never even attempted intercourse without first knowing what protection was being invoked (by either myself or the woman). I have always felt that causing a woman's pregnancy is as much a concern for me as it is for her (after all, it would be "my" kid too -- right? :-)). With my first lover I almost always used a condom, since then the woman has been the one which has used birth control (although I realize the importance of both people being concerned about the matter, it is not always the case that both persons are equally prepared). Perhaps one of the hardest things I have ever found myself doing is asking a woman if she is using a contraceptive method (and if so which one, since to me this is extremely important. After all by participating in intercourse I share equally in the responsibility). It's not at all easy! And there have been several times when intercourse was not performed due to a lack of contraceptive method, however that doesn't mean that you still can't have LOTS of FUN :--)!!! I think this is a good topic and look forward to reading other peoples reactions. --Dana