colonel@gloria.UUCP (Col. G. L. Sicherman) (06/08/85)
> Most of my friends in the U.S. (the married ones, that is) did not have > "arranged" marriages. That makes me feel good; I know I have friends who are > truly educated. And you can bet your diamond wedding ring that when I marry, > it won't be an "arranged" marriage. > --- Debashish Niyogi Unless it's your bride who arranges it :-) -- Col. G. L. Sicherman ...{rocksvax|decvax}!sunybcs!colonel
sunil@ut-ngp.UUCP (Sunil Trivedi) (06/08/85)
> > From: suchi@utastro.UUCP (Suchitra Balachandran) Fri Jun 7 11:59:47 1985 > To: sunil@ut-ngp.ARPA {...!ut-sally!ut-ngp!sunil} > > About your arranged marriage question: > > I agree with the one reply I saw posted on the net. It really is a question > of your cultural upbringing. The norm in India is an arranged marriage and > that is what one does when one thinks of getting married. The basic problem > even if you want to do otherwise is the inability of meeting a sufficient > number of people to choose a partner. The pattern is changing though slowly. > I am not surprised that Indian guys here are returning home to find wives. > How many single Indian girls do you know in the US? If it does, 'unarranged' > marriages are more likely to catch on in India and among single Indian girls > here. > > Suchitra > This mail to me was posted as it seemed appropriate to the current topic. Replies to the above message can be sent to: suchi@utastro.ARPA {...!ut-sally!utastro!suchi} Sunil Trivedi
sunil@ut-ngp.UUCP (Sunil Trivedi) (06/08/85)
> > From: S.Ganapathy <ganpaty> Sat Jun 8 00:34:29 1985 > To: sunil@ut-ngp.ARPA {...!ut-sally!ut-ngp!sunil} > Subject: your letter to net.nlang.india & net.women about getting a wife. > Status: R > > Dear Sunil, > This is my response to your letter regarding getting a wife. To me the > the wording does not sound good. Looks like one is shopping around for a com- > modity such as a car or any other thing you can think of. The reason why ar- > ranged marriages are still in vogue is that the chances of their working or not > is the same as that of love marriages.Remember just by being in love may be > a necessary but may not be a sufficient condition for the man and woman to > know each other fully well. Do not forget that the arranged marriages are not > forced upon the man or woman by their families as one might incline to think. > I agree that in arranged marriages there is insufficient opportunity for the > man and woman to know and objectively assess each others compatability or > otherwise. May be in a love marriage such oppurtunities abound but once again > that does not guarantee the success of love marriages too. > Have you heard the saying that love is blind/blinding ? I am not trying to > defend arranged marriages. The most important thing that makes a marriage is > the attitude of the couple. Arguements such as: Oh! Have I made a mistake?, > I deserve better than this, may be I can give it another try? There definite- > ly must be a better match and so on and so forth are guarantees to dig the > grave of matrimony. Well Sunil these are some thoughts that your letter > provoked in me. If you want you are free to put them on net. > Well I don't intend to bore you any more. Would be interested in your response > to my thinking. > Take care. > Gany. > This mail was posted as it also discusses the current topic. Any replies to this article should be sent to: ganpaty@ut-ngp.ARPA {...!ut-sally!ut-ngp!ganpaty} Sunil Trivedi
muppala@sunybcs.UUCP (Shankar Muppala) (06/11/85)
> > > > From: S.Ganapathy <ganpaty> Sat Jun 8 00:34:29 1985 > > To: sunil@ut-ngp.ARPA {...!ut-sally!ut-ngp!sunil} > > Subject: your letter to net.nlang.india & net.women about getting a wife. > > Status: R > > > > Dear Sunil, > > This is my response to your letter regarding getting a wife. To me the > > the wording does not sound good. Looks like one is shopping around for a com- > > modity such as a car or any other thing you can think of. The reason why ar- > > ranged marriages are still in vogue is that the chances of their working or not > > is the same as that of love marriages.Remember just by being in love may be > > a necessary but may not be a sufficient condition for the man and woman to > > know each other fully well. Do not forget that the arranged marriages are not > > forced upon the man or woman by their families as one might incline to think. > > I agree that in arranged marriages there is insufficient opportunity for the > > man and woman to know and objectively assess each others compatability or > > otherwise. May be in a love marriage such oppurtunities abound but once again > > that does not guarantee the success of love marriages too. > > Have you heard the saying that love is blind/blinding ? I am not trying to > > defend arranged marriages. The most important thing that makes a marriage is > > the attitude of the couple. Arguements such as: Oh! Have I made a mistake?, > > I deserve better than this, may be I can give it another try? There definite- > > ly must be a better match and so on and so forth are guarantees to dig the > > grave of matrimony. Well Sunil these are some thoughts that your letter > > provoked in me. If you want you are free to put them on net. > > Well I don't intend to bore you any more. Would be interested in your response > > to my thinking. > > Take care. > > Gany. > > > > This mail was posted as it also discusses the current topic. Any > replies to this article should be sent to: > ganpaty@ut-ngp.ARPA {...!ut-sally!ut-ngp!ganpaty} > > > Sunil Trivedi *Iagree with this letter and also the other letters in reply to arranged marriages. I feel that the original letter was posted in the most irresponsible manner as could be done. Mr. 'original' did not think of a lot of problems before posting that letter. One of the biggest problems is getting your sisters married in a closed Knit co- mmunity like India. You got to think about that also. Thanks Shankar ** REPLACE THIS LINE WITH YOUR MESSAGE ***