sommers@topaz.ARPA (Mamaliz @ The Soup Kitchen) (06/08/85)
I see nothing wrong with telling a woman that she looks good. I LIKE it
when somebody tells me that I am looking my best. What I don't like is to
be told that "You look good, come home with me. YOU must be looking good
for me."
People who expect insults will see them everywhere around them. I find
that an occasional compliment from a stranger makes me feel good. I am
certainly not looking my best for the benefit of the crt, it is for me and
those around me.
--
liz sommers
uucp: ...{harvard, seismo, ut-sally, sri-iu, ihnp4!packard}!topaz!sommers
arpa: sommers@rutgersfrye@cuuxa.UUCP (frye) (06/13/85)
I personally like to look at women. They are quite easy on
these old eyes. I appreciate what I see but to walk around
thinking they "look pretty or sexy" just for my benefit is
a frame of mind that I just can't conceive myself developing.
The reason I am writing this is to tell everyone how hurt i
am by the facts at hand. I am scared shitless to compliment
a women on her appearance now-a-days. I feel that just one
wrong word would hurt her deeply or scare her to the point
that she'd never be able to trust me. I don't scare easily
I guess. Things that scare most people make me madder than
hell. I guess I haven't learned how to deal with fear very
well. The fact still remains that women don't have too much
trust for men they don't know. I don't blame 'em but, the
way things are a guy can't even tell a lady she looks good
without running the risk of scaring her half to death. So,
as of late I just keep my mouth shut unless the lady knows
me already. So much for freedom of speech---
Note: this posting is just to inform the folks who read the
net that I, as a male, have to pay for the abuse of women
too. Also, while I don't think I'm important enough for my
oppinion to make or break a lady, I sometimes would like to
express it. Who knows, she might of had a rough day. If I tell
her she looks good, it might make her think (during this rough
day) that she did at least one thing right. Compliments make
me feel good. What do some of you people think? Am I over-
reacting? I am usually pretty picky about the words I use to
express my thoughts. Am I just being wimpy about this or what?
I feel that I would like to earn the reputation for being "up
front" (I like to say what I feel so people (especially women)
don't have to guess.) What do I do, take a restroom break or
wind my watch? Never mind, the damned watch runs on batteries.
vvstuttervv
Just one more of my of my rare thoughts. Some lady said she
doesn't want to be walked to her car and escorted around etc.
She would rather have the means (but preferably the lack of
need) to defend and take care of herself. Another mentioned
what could happen to a guy who's trying to help a lady who's
in some trouble. Well, to the first lady I'd have to say, I
agree but we need something 'til things get better. To the
second I'd have to relate an insident. I was with a lady on
one occasion when trouble appeared imminent. Those two turds
were eyeballing her real hard. I just told her to go ahead.
When they saw she was alone they started in her direction.
They were very surprised to hear my voise behind them. I was
not alone back there behind them. I had my dog, the one that
barks over here and bites over there.....The second lady asked
if most men would run the risks involved to help a lady. My
answer is no, most men wouldn't. But then most men aren't from
down in the woods like I am either. They weren't weened on a
shotgun and a Barlow whittlin' knife.
He was killed by a man with a switchblade knife.
Over $43.00 my friend lost his life.
I'd like to spit some Beechnut in that dudes eye,
then shoot him with my ol' .45. -Hank Williams Jr.
The shame about the laws in this country: as a boy scout they tell
ya to be prepared. If you prepare yourself for any eventuality, the
fuzz'll bust you for carrying a firearm. That's stupid.
All of the afore mentioned verbage belongs to yer ol' Uncle Fudley
(me) and I doubt anyone else would claim it if they found it laying
around. (The exception is what I quoted from Ol' Hank Jr.)
T.R. Frye