[net.women] whom do Arranged Marriages favor?

colonel@gloria.UUCP (Col. G. L. Sicherman) (06/20/85)

[You want HOW MANY wives?]

> 	In all the responses for this discussion, I have yet
> 	to read anything about the differences in how the Arranged
> 	Marriage System treats the male and the female participants.
> 	The system seems to be heavily weighted in favor of the
> 	males (sons) as are most things.  A son brings a wife into
> 	the family while the daughter 'leaves' to join her husband's
> 	family.  The girl's family may for a long time try to
> 	'unload' her to just about anyone.  The tradition of
> 	subservience would more likely lead the girls to accept the
> 	'match' over the son who may feel that he could get better.

There's a theorem in mathematics, due (I think) to J. H. Conway.
Assume that everybody has a lineally ordered list of prospective
marriage partners.  Define a "stable" matching as a matching in which
no two people would be happier married to each other than to the people
they're married to.

One can distinguish two stable matchings among the others: the men-
oriented matching, where each man gets his best available choice,
and the women-oriented matching, where each woman gets her best
available choice.  These are always distinct, unless there is only
one stable matching!
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Col. G. L. Sicherman
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