[net.women] Emotions at work

regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard) (07/11/85)

This is one of those interesting observations on "the workplace" that
come up which has at least two distinct different sides.

Women, entering traditional "men's" territory, often take on the coloration
of the men, as a survival technique.  What happens is that the false
coloration continues to be validated for quite some time until there is a
great enough number of women present to begin changing the actual
environment itself, and then the men begin (again) to notice changes
happening within their environment which never would have occurred if the
women hadn't joined up.  And then the "advisability" of allowing those
"different" creatures to come on board is raised again, without realization
that it means a greater freedom for the ruling class, as well.

Women can bring their "woman's perspective" which is simply a side of human
being that men have had socialized out of them.  It isn't a human side that
men don't _have_.  No real point in leaving it at home.

I've always wondered why _anybody_, male or female, would consider it a
good idea to have one's emotional limbs lopped off, like an overgrown tree,
so their shape would then conform to the corporate box structure, rather
than expect, and create, a situation where one's limbs can be used to an
advantage, personally or professionally.  I know _why_, of course: trying
to deal with every Tom Dick and Harry as if they were whole, growing and
living things is more time and energy consuming than if they are similar
wooden boxes, but my more rebellious self insists that, in their heart of
hearts, Tom is very different from Dick, and Harry.  They just pretend to
buy the stereotype (in others, as a convenience) all the while practicing
their own little idiosyncracies every day of their lives.

Women shouldn't try so very hard to fit in to the structured workplace
created by expectations they had no part in.  The workplace will change to
fit them, somewhat, too.  It isn't the emotionalism of either the male or
the female that is "inappropriate" or "wrong".  It's merely inconvenient
for some other people at some times, and to hell with them mostly.

Why continue to support a system that is dehumanizing?  More money?  Nah.