features@ihuxf.UUCP (aMAZon) (09/25/85)
> Until you can show me undenialble proof that you and all of us know where we > are going, I will choose to remain in the past, after all, the past worked > and has spoken for itself (there wasn't a 50% divorce rate) the present doesn't > look too healthy, and the future is cloaked in the vagueness of experimentation. There wasn't a 50% divorce rate in "the good old days", but there *was* a higher mortality rate. It was not exceptional for a man to outlive a number of wives who had died in childbirth. > > A lot of "bridal" showers now include both the bride and the groom > > and the people invited include men as well as women. I have had and/or attended > > A lot of bridal showers do not include men. So much for that argument. And a lot of bridal showers do include men. So much for that argument. The faceless future that seems to terrifying to this quoted poster is the same faceless future that terrified our ancestors. Nothing re: wedding customs is written in stone. Engraved on vellum, maybe. :-) Personally, I'd rather go to marriage as an equal partner rather than being a gift-item from my father to my husband. -- aMAZon @ AT&T Bell Labs, Naperville, IL; ihnp4!ihuxf!features *open to possibilities*