abeaver@tekig5.UUCP (A Beaver) (02/25/86)
In a previous article I had written... > > > And then there are those of us who are just "Incredibly Busy". > > > It's not too easy to make dates if you have to get up early. Someone retorted.. > > Sorry, but I don't buy this one. It's a story, an excuse. To avoid just > > saying you aren't enough interested. [ more opinions about how you would > > make the time if you wanted to..] > And yes, my sleep time is VERY important, because it determines my general > health and productivity. Not many things short of a major crisis are > worth that. > -- > jcpatilla I hadn't thought that I was the only one getting up early to go to work.... When a person is the sole support of several children, as I have been for the last 8 or 9 years, you really value the time which you have in the evening. A lot of times, going to bed at 9 or 9:30, is VERY necessary. Otherwise, you would not be able to make it at work and still get your homework done. I have found that my head works better with my morning coffee, then when I have put in a long day. Annadiana Beaver abeaver@tektronix
woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods) (02/25/86)
> When a person is the sole support of several children, as I have been > for the last 8 or 9 years, you really value the time which you have in > the evening. A lot of times, going to bed at 9 or 9:30, is VERY > necessary. First of all, I don't believe "necessary" is really the right word, based on what you've written here. You said your time in the evening was valuable to you. I can relate to that. My point was, if I ask you out, I'd rather hear either "I want to spend that evening with my kids" or "Sorry, but I really don't want to go out with you", or even "I'm not interested in any dates these days because I'd rather spend time with my kids" than "I'm too busy" which is just a camouflage and actually even a deception. If I hear "I'm too busy" then I don't even know whether I should ask again. What you REALLY mean is: I'd rather spend the evening at home than go out with you. There is nothing WRONG with that, either. It's perfectly understandable. But one thing I CAN tell you: if you insist on looking at it as though you HAVE to stay home and HAVE to go to bed early, instead of seeing that it really is your choice to do so, then you won't be able to enjoy that time as much as you would otherwise, not to mention the missed opportunities to do other things that you will let pass by without even considering them. In many cases like this (and I'm not saying it's true in your case) you can even start to resent the kids for "forcing" you to stay home all the time. People can cause themselves a lot of unnecessary grief with this kind of "have to" outlook. --Greg -- {ucbvax!hplabs | decvax!noao | mcvax!seismo | ihnp4!seismo} !hao!woods CSNET: woods@ncar.csnet ARPA: woods%ncar@CSNET-RELAY.ARPA "If the game is lost, we're all the same; No one left to place or take the blame"