frear@ihnp1.UUCP (L. Frear) (02/22/86)
My SO and I are thinking about just going somewhere far away
and having a nice simple wedding then having a great vacation
for a honeymoon. (We're talking Europe or Mexico or (ugh) California)
Has anyone out there had a wedding without the pictures, family,
hall, and other misc. headaches? Have you ever been really sorry
you didn't have 8 bridesmaids and 500 guests? I'm not sure
what we are going to do yet, except we are spending our own
money, and **I** would rather be on a beach on the Riviera than
watching Aunt Fran get drunk and yell at Uncle Charlie for slopping
food on his tie :-)
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(or don't bother going at all) mrgofor@mmm.UUCP (MKR) (02/24/86)
In article <399@ihnp1.UUCP> frear@ihnp1.UUCP (L. Frear) writes: > >My SO and I are thinking about just going somewhere far away >and having a nice simple wedding then having a great vacation >for a honeymoon. (We're talking Europe or Mexico or (ugh) California) > >Has anyone out there had a wedding without the pictures, family, >hall, and other misc. headaches? Have you ever been really sorry >you didn't have 8 bridesmaids and 500 guests? I'm not sure >what we are going to do yet, except we are spending our own >money, and **I** would rather be on a beach on the Riviera than >watching Aunt Fran get drunk and yell at Uncle Charlie for slopping >food on his tie :-) > > Lori Frear My wife and I were married in Scotland. My parents just happened to be living there (my Dad worked for Bechtel - we moved all over). When we decided to get married, we called my parents to tell them, and then it occurred to us that my parents were going to have to buy two round-trip tickets to be at the wedding. The same thought occurred to them, so we all simultaneously came up with the idea that, as long as two tickets were to be purchased, they might as well be for us. So we were married in a 300 year old castle in Edinburgh. The only people at the wedding that we knew were my parents. The other 14 people there were friends of my parents - a couple Americans, some Brits and some Scots. It was wonderful. One of the bonuses was the lack of pressure usually found at weddings - especially for my wife (Kim). Women have always had more of a burden in traditional weddings - I guess because it's supposed to be "her big day - she finally caught a man." And unfortunately, many of Kim's relatives from rural Wisconsin are not terribly progressive - they would not have understood her not wanting a big deal wedding. The opportunity to do it as we did saved us from the ordeal. The bad aspects: In our case the worst aspect is that Kim's parents were not able to attend. The expense was part of it, but it was mostly because Kim's mother refuses to fly and will not use a bathroom with which's hygenic history she is not intimately familiar. This was made worse by the fact that Kim is an only child. Before you call us evil, self-centered brats, though, let me say that everything was agreeable to all - Kim's parents wouldn't have thought of standing in the way of this unique opportunity. Logistics could also have been a problem, but luckily we had someone on that end to arrange things for us. It sounds like that may be a bit more of a problem for you, if you do it alone somewhere. A suggestion - we were able to appease many of the relatives by having the wedding videotaped, so they could see it after all. The only problem with this is that you will probably have to sit through the video tape thousands of times, explaining all the action endlessly for all the people who want to see it. Try to get them all together at once to view it. After all is said and done, I am very glad we did it that way, without all the hassle. I would recommend it to anyone who hates the thought of drunken Aunts, obnoxious Uncles, and patronizing relatives of every ilk. I'd say do it - and enjoy it. It's supposed to be a day for the two of you, but all too often it is really a day for all the relatives. Do it for yourselves - if your relatives want a ceremony, tell them they can have one at your funeral. :-) -- --MKR There is none so blind as he who cannot see.
ingrid@pilchuckDataio.UUCP (the Real Swede) (02/27/86)
> > My SO and I are thinking about just going somewhere far away > and having a nice simple wedding then having a great vacation > for a honeymoon. (We're talking Europe or Mexico or (ugh) California) > > Has anyone out there had a wedding without the pictures, family, > hall, and other misc. headaches? >... > > Lori Frear When I got married, the ceremony was performed in our living room. My best friend was the maid of honor; his, the best man. Just a judge; no religious officiating. Only close friends were present. No, I never regretted anything concerning the ceremony. Many of those present remarked that it was the nicest wedding they`d ever seen. I do, however, regret marrying whom I did----we got divorced last summer! ;-) ingrid
cheryl@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU (cheryl) (02/27/86)
Don't wedding announcements belong in net.social?
jimo@phred.UUCP (Jim Osborn) (03/10/86)
> > Has anyone out there had a wedding without the pictures, family, > hall, and other misc. headaches? Have you ever been really sorry > you didn't have 8 bridesmaids and 500 guests? ... Renee and I woke up one Sunday morning and thought it would be nice to be married. We'd been living in a sailboat for eight months or so. It took three or four days to get the license, arrange for witnesses and a jp to do the formalities, and there we were, married. That was six years ago, and we remember how nice it was, every time we watch friends drive themselves into a tizzy with the bridesmaids and 500 guests... ...tikal!phred!jimo