iy47ab (12/02/82)
I deeply relate to what Ken was saying, and I have noted one very important fact: nearly all the people I have met who are into the swinging scene have a great emptiness in their lives. It isn't just loneliness. It has to do with a great fear of opening themselves up to people all the way, the fear of really becoming vulnerable. It seems that their reaction to this is to open themselves up sexually, feeling that somehow this is the way to reach out to the world. It's very sad...this really just doesn't work. You have to open up your heart....a lot of couples with troubles feel that maybe swinging would reduce their tendency to stray from each other at other times. Again, this doesn't usually work...the relationship breaks up for what appear to be very surface reasons, and everyone is worse off. Yes, there are exceptions...but I tend to feel that in general, the swinging scene is not a particularly positive experience. Lady Arwen of U.C. San Diego