bmcjmp (01/20/83)
I like when doors are held open for me. I also enjoy returning the favor. Only a woman insecure about being a woman would resent something as trifling as a man holding a door for her. There are many more important things to worry about in the nature of sexual harassment. Barb Puder burdvax!bmcjmp
mhauck (01/21/83)
I was brought up in a household that opened doors for ourselves. Which caused problems when I started dating. The quys would rush to the door to open it for me. And it took a while to sink in to me because I was always used to opening doors myself. My sister-in-law (then just my brothers girlfriend) got mad at me one time because I started getting out of the car before my brother opened the door. She made me close the door and wait. I thought it was dumb, but I wasn't brought up that way. My husband used to try and open doors until I told him not to. Who wants to stand outside in the cold waiting for a door to be opened? But everyone is different and what they feel should be respected. My own opinion is that I can open a door myself, but some of the doors I have tryed to open are heavy and I'd love some help getting the pigs open.(I don't enjoy dislocating my arm trying to open a door.) Enough! Let me end saying I feel sorry for the woman that throught opening a door was Sexual Harrassment. I'd like to know her exact reason though. Mary Hauck
burris (01/25/83)
#N:ihlpb:19600001: 0:1219 ihlpb!burris Jan 24 21:17:00 1983 I believe that the reason some women react in a seemingly illogical manner concerning door opening, etc., is due to an underlying attitude caused by the more discrete forms of sexual harassment and/or discrimination. Many women are frustrated at the insensitivity of men to the REAL problem. Women are real feeling human beings and quite capable of making intelligent decisions and doing things for themselves. We are not talking womens' rights here, we are talking HUMAN rights. Being human, women react to such things as opening doors, etc. differently. The ones who react adversely are more likely than not reacting to an action which is tangible(for lack of a better word) as opposed to the more damaging and also more subtle forms of discrimination. In general, I enjoy being courteous to women and will open the door providing I don't have to race to beat her to it. As with other common courteous actions, it is more the intention that is really important. If you would rush to open the door for a woman, only to let it slam on the man coming in behind you, then don't bother. I realize this is a gross oversimplification. Please keep this in mind before flaming. Dave Burris ihlpb!burris BTL - Naperville
garry (02/03/83)
Any PERSON who resents having a door held open for them, is probably just an argument looking for someone to have it with. Garry