mokhtar@ubc-vision.CDN (Farzin Mokhtarian) (04/09/84)
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You are right that a friend's hug is different from a lover's. In my case,
my lover has also been my best friend and nobody's hug has ever matched hers.
If it's a friend, it would have to be a true, trusted friend or as you said
the hug will be empty and such a friend is very hard to find (at least for me).
What I was objecting to was that the original article seemed to suggest
hugging almost anyone and seemed to abstract the hug and make the other
person (his/her feelings, beliefs, personality) almost irrelevant. If that is
true, I certainly don't agree (If `abstract' sex doesn't appeal to you, you
probably know what I am talking about).
Farzin Mokhtarian, UBC, Vancouver, BC