cmsj@ihdba.UUCP (Chris Jachcinski) (08/24/84)
Does anyone know for certain what the "socially correct" interval
is between the time invitations are mailed out and the date of the
wedding? We've been trying to locate the information and have
gotten answers (opinions) ranging from 2 months to 3 weeks. Anyone
an Emily Post expert out there? Thanks in advance.
Chris Jachcinski
AT&T Bell Labs
ihnp4!ihdba!cmsjgarret@oddjob.UChicago.UUCP (Trisha O Tuama) (08/27/84)
I'd say four-five weeks for domestic invitations with two months for overseas. Trisha
jamcmullan@wateng.UUCP (Judy McMullan) (08/27/84)
I found the same discrepancy - various sources of information say anywhere
from 2 months to TWO weeks. Since my invitations asked people to respond by
2 weeks before the wedding, it would have been pretty stupid to mail them
out two weeks before!! You like to know who is coming, if you are feeding
them.
I don't know about the States, but mail service just isn't as good as it
used to be, in Canada. I used to be able to get a letter across the continent
in 2 or 3 days but now I'm lucky if it goes 50 miles in that time. Letters
from here to the States (we invited several people from the States) typically
take 10 days to 2 weeks to get there (then the reply has to come back).
I mailed the overseas ones about 2 months ahead and the domestic ones in the
following week. The last ones were mailed 6 weeks ahead. I felt that I would
like to have a month's warning if I were being invited to a wedding,
especially if it involved coming in from out of town and perhaps booking
overnight accomodation.
Since the 'etiquette' seems so variable, I think you should use common sense
with consideration for how much warning you would like people to have (the
more they have, the less likely they are to have other commitments) and how
much notice you would like to have. In that respect it is a good idea to give
the date before which you would like the responses.
--from the sssstickkky keyboard of JAM
...!{ihnp4|clyde|decvax}!watmath!wateng!jamcmullancmsj@ihuxm.UUCP (Chris Jachcinski) (09/01/84)
Thanks to all who posted or mailed comments on the timeliness
of mailing Wedding Invitations. The "out of town" ones went
out last Wednesday; the rest hit the SnailMail today. That
gives us 5 weeks to the wedding; 4 till we need to know "final"
numbers (for the caterer, etc). Thanks again.
Chris Jachcinski
AT&T Bell Labs
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