[net.social] Neighborhood relationships

hollis@ucf-cs.UUCP (William ) (11/29/84)

My father was in the military from my birth till I was in the 10th grade, so
all I remember was every three years or so we moved (at the most, sometimes
it was every 1 year).  Before everybody says 'aw, how terrible' I do have to 
say that I learned fairly fast how to make friends, and how to move without
eing depressed for weeks.  The most problems I had was when we moved out of the
'military life' and went to the 'civillian' world.  When we moved to Richmond
Virginia, I had the worst school year of my entire life, unfortunately it was
my senior year (oh well).  All the other 'kids' knew each thoer since the 2nd
grade, had thier friends all set, and didn't like them strangers.  These same
people will never make it in a real city, but they don't want to be in a real
city either.  I can't say whether that is right or wrong, just that that is the
way it is.  I can't say that I dispair to see the close knit community die...


William Kendall Hollis

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carson@homxa.UUCP (P.CARSTENSEN) (12/03/84)

Actually some folks out of close-knit communities can cope very
well outside them--off, hand, I'd say there are about three basic
types:  The ones that marry a MOTAS from the neighborhood,
buy a place next to their parents,
and work at pretty much the things their parents did.  The ones
that feel they have to try every "sin" in the book (the so-called
black sheep), either because they were always expected to be saints
(Ministers' kids, for example) or because they were never expected to
be any good anyhow, so end up with wild, flakey, and dissolute lives
(and are a LOT of fun..:-)...And a few that, being secure about where
they come from, turn out to be fascinating, integrated individuals...
Patty