hagouel@ittvax.UUCP (Jack Hagouel) (01/23/85)
I propose the following abbreviations:
CSO - candidate SO, or Significant Other in only one direction.
XSO - ex SO
PSO - platonic SO, when absence of sex needs to be emphasized; this
would really be a special case of an SO since I don't think SO
should ALWAYS imply sex.
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Jack Hagouel
..!ittvax!hagouel (203) 929-7341sunny@sun.uucp (Sunny Kirsten) (01/28/85)
> Jack Hagouel..!ittvax!hagouel proposes the following abbreviations: > > CSO - candidate SO, or Significant Other in only one direction. > XSO - ex SO > PSO - platonic SO, when absence of sex needs to be emphasized; this > would really be a special case of an SO since I don't think SO > should ALWAYS imply sex. > -- OSO - Other Signifigant Other If your #1 mate is your "SO", then your #2-#n mate is "OSO", your other signifigant other(s) I'm serious about the need for this one, and would be glad of feedback on alternatives to describe this situation. Dealing with your "SO" when adding a new "OSO": Having just spent a signifigant part of a weekend dealing with this problem, I was wondering what experiences / lessons others might have had. I've had an "SO" I've been very serious with for over 2 years, and whom I've often been close enough with to want to "marry", but our relationship has been too tempestuous (when 2 strong-willed people get together....) for us to finally consummate our good-close times with an actual marriage, (and besides, since we're both legally female, a state-sanctioned "marriage" is out of the question (some of you may recall I'm a rather androgynous transsexual)). During one of our frequent but short-duration "break-ups" I met another lady who was very special to me, and my SO and I recently had occasion to meet her together. Not being able to say "no" to either one, I naturally wound-up snuggling both at the same time. Which (of-course) led to a certain degree of understandable insecurity on the part of my SO. Not that she hasn't previously had occasion to seek others as a possible alternative to our tempestuous relationship, but her current "mood" is extremely monogamous with me. So.... Having made arrangements to contact and follow up with my new OSO, I spent a lot of energy reassuring my SO that she wasn't gonna lose me over this unless she made an ultimatum for me to be monogamous. Now some might feel that I'm playing with fire here, but then, just being me is pretty different in the first place, and I've always been in the position of possibly/eventually losing my SO over her inability to fully deal with who I am. Strangely enough? I'm finding that the whole situation has in fact made me feel even closer to my SO, while at the same time feeling very close to my developing OSO. somewhat confused, but very happy, Sunny -- {ucbvax,decvax,ihnp4}!sun!sunny