[net.social] whose minding the kids

regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard) (07/12/85)

Newsgroups: net.women,net.politics,net.social


>A matter of practical concern:  Several have suggested that after a
>woman has interrupted her career to have a child, she should return to
>work and the husband should now interrupt his career to care for the
>child for a while.  This sounds good on the surface and in a utopian
>world, it probably would be.  Certainly it would be fair but would it
>be practical?  In this competitive world of ever rising cost of
>living, does it make sense to interrupt *both* careers?  Think about
>it before you start flaming at my "male arrogance" and remember that
>neither I nor any other male designed the "plumbing" of either sex.
>(:-})
>Charlie Sorsby

Some years back, there was concern that shortening the work day to 8 hours
in some industries would make certain jobs less "productive" and put the
employers at an economic disadvantage (and therefore, they would not agree
to an 8 hour day).  Ah....how "impractical".

The fact that many parents of both sexes may interrupt their careers for a
short period to deal with small children would help to reduce the stigma
of leaving for short periods of time for personal reasons -- regardless of
sex or the reason itself.  We, the actual workers in the market, are as
much the molders of this "competitive world" of rising cost (and of work
expectations, which is what you are really dealing with, since cost is just
a translation of the worth of a certain body of work).  Afterall, it is by
our actions, expectations, beliefs, vote, lobbying, insistance that we
create our own environment.

Women have historically "chosen" to take time off to deal with children.
I submit that men have historically "chosen" NOT to.  If the former chooses
to do so less, and the latter chooses to do so more often, the workplace
will adjust to include the notion of "time off" for kids as a universal
benefit for workers, regardless of sex.  Time-share jobs started out
just that way, and haven't created massive binds in the market, either.
Yes, I know you can give me a negative example.  I can give positive
examples.  Do we need to go through that exercise?)  Of course, men can
continue to chose NOT to, but what is their gain?

'course, so many men don't think of it thatta way.