[net.politics] On forgetting and forgiving

mf@cornell.UUCP (mf) (05/02/85)

Lest we forget...  It is very easy to dismiss the strong reactions to
this president's visit to ``that'' cemetery.  After all, aren't they
dead, shouldn't our memories be dead too?  In the last few days, I have
spoken with many a survivor from the camps, as well as refugees and
people who had lived hidden, in fear, anguish and famine.  If they
were silent up to now, it is because of the excrutiating pain *they*
feel when remembering, and it is because of the silence imposed upon
them by those who don't want to hear and who don't want to know.

How can one forgive and forget in their name?  Theirs is a testimony
against a system which did not respect the elementary rights of everyone
to his own originality and particularity, not only about a fact of
dead history, but an evidence of an ever-present reality.

Their stories are ones of despair and hope, a very topical warning to
all of those who did not believe then and want to forget today, to
those who look at the serene and pastoral ruins of the camps sincerely
believing that they signify the death of a plague rather than the birth
of a new evil, and who pretend to believe that all this is of one time
and one country and who do not hear that people cry unceasingly.

If you don't know what I am talking about, find someone who lived this
season in hell, and listen.  Or watch. ``Night and Fog,'' say.  Here
are some personal sketches a friend and I heard.

Frederika, a very old woman, was telling me how the quotas prevented
her from entering the USA with her family, and how, consequently, she
had to go to Australia, while her mother and 3 sisters died in
Theresienstad.

Irmgard told me how she was imprisoned and tatooed (41-965) and later
made, along with other women, to stand in the courtyard of Auschwitz
and watch 3 women being hanged.  When she lowered her head so as not to
see, a German soldier hit her with the butt of his gun and told her
"You pig, you are supposed to watch."

As the Russians approached, she with other prisoners were packed like
cattle in open wagons and shipped for days without food and under snow
and rain to yet another concentration camp.

Upon her arrival here, she had to endure the guilt for having survived
and be a living testimony of the human-imposed barbarism, imposed by
her by complacent and well-fed people.  In spite of all, she is one
of the most wonderful, intelligent and gentle women I know.  And she
is still afraid, and she still has nightmares.

Mira couldn't tell me a thing, it is too painful for her, but her
friend told me some of the things that had happened to her: her husband
taken out of her house and shot in the street, her son (or nephew, I
don't recall) thrown live in the flames, her stay in one of the worst
camps, finally to be sent into the sea in boats without food or
steering means, and at every attempt at approaching the shore--to be
machine-gunned by the Nazis (they were rescued by the Russians).

A friend's mother was raped by a nazi soldier while she watched her
husband being shot.  Surviving that seems herculean...

Ernestine had her father taken out and shot (in Austria) because he was
Catholic and socialist.

I had a friend in Tucson.  He was hidden by a Christian lady in Belgium
for the duration.  One year, on Christmas eve, he decided to take the
chance to go out and buy her a Christmas present to thank her.  As he
approached the house after shopping, he saw the SS cars out front, so
slipped into a doorway and waited.  Apparently, the SS had been told
she was hiding a Jew;  when they came, she expressed shock that they
could even think such a thing, and invited them to search the premises
to confirm that no one else was there.  He was in hiding for something
like four years -- he only left the house that once for a couple
hours.  Such a narrow escape haunts him still.

Collective memory, collective pains.  If the only death that one knows
of is that of actors on a stage (who miraculously resurrect at the end
of the movie), of ridiculous Nazis in a sitcom, of Riefenstahl's
pageants, lack of empathy and sensitivity makes more ... sense.
Especially when political expediency is concerned.

jj@alice.UUCP (05/02/85)

It's unfortunate that many people cannot understand
the difference betweeen forgetting and forgiving.

They two concepts are utterly unrelated, one essential
to the continuted health of the human race (forgiving), and
one pathalogically damaging to same (forgetting).

mf's article on "lest we forget" completely misses the point that
NOBODY is asking anyone to forget what happened. FORGETTING
enemity is something else, since what it REALLY means
is forGIVING those alive today who were NOT responsible, not
forgetting what happened. (I think this syntatic point is
clear to everyone, it's just that it makes nice fodder for
people who want to cry wolf and/or make unfounded allegations.

By the way, congratulations to mf for the first piece of
NON-offensive propoganda I've seen in a very long time.
I don't agree with the point, even though the examples are true,
because the point is flawed by a specious base, namely that
one is being asked to forget, rather than forgive.
Asking one to forget would be, as far as I'm concerned, 
offensive at the very least, and more likely suspect.

_______________
Aside to Ken...

I see you've made the same preemptive assumption about the
Reagan Administration as others, namely that the whole collection
of individuals is stupid.  I think that prevents you from seeing
the questions of honor and responsibility that are evident
(even though undoubtedly misguided) in the Bitburg visit.
If you do NOT assume that the administration is stupid (since
they DO disagree with you), and rather assume that people
who disagree can do so without being stupid and idiotic,
then you may find different conclusions.

______________
Note: To the anonamous person who suggested that the JDL should
bomb my house.  I thank you, my SO thanks you, etc.etc.

It's amazing, the hate mail that I've gotten from posting a letter
asking people to forgive and !not! forget.  It seems that a lot
of well known (and less well known) net personalities are
totally incapable of giving the other guy a break, after asking
for many breaks themselves.  I think those of you who deliberately
slandered me during this exchange have finally shown your true colors
as hypocrites who will take any advantage that they think
they can get away with.  In the future, I shall regard your
arguments solely as deliberately misleading sophistry, and without
any redeeming value, perhaps except as sophistic literature.
The deliberate lying in articles posted to the net by people
who defame me for no other reason than asking  them to 
help create a minimum of peace is astounding.  I guess that
while it's OK to propose war and revolution, it's absolutely
unforgivable to post a message suggesting that people should
(of their own free will), try to make the world a better place.
(Sigh, whatever happened to the 60's?)

I guess the watchword of the '80's is destruction.  I think
I want to move to another planet.

The attitudes (not the ideals, the ATTITUDES) presented in 
this newsgroup are entirely unnecessary, I guess I'm starting
to be glad that the net is collapsing under it's own weight.
Where will you rave when the net is gone, folks?
-- 
DO TEDDY BEARS HAVE OPINIONS?  ASK YOURS TODAY!
"My mind is clearer now, at last, all too well, I can see, where we all,
soon will be.."

(ihnp4/allegra)!alice!jj

desjardins@h-sc1.UUCP (marie desjardins) (05/04/85)

I suggest the following:

					Forget		Forgive

Individual soldiers, who can		No		Yes
   be shown to have had no
   authority
The German army of WWII in 		No		No
   general (including SS and others)
Today's German people who still		No		No
   hold prejudices against Jews
Today's other German people		No		yes

So we won't forget anything, since knowledge is a Good Thing, but we'll
forgive those who have (as far as can be determined) no guilt.  Isn't this
nice and fair?

	marie desjardins

mms1646@acf4.UUCP (Michael M. Sykora) (05/05/85)

>/* jj@alice.UUCP /  4:19 pm  May  2, 1985 */

>. . . FORGETTING
>enemity is something else, since what it REALLY means
>is forGIVING those alive today who were NOT responsible, not
>forgetting what happened. . . 

There is no need to forgive those who were not responsible.  In fact, it is
nonsensical to forgive those who were not responsible.

garys@bunker.UUCP (Gary M. Samuelson) (05/06/85)

> I suggest the following:
> 
> 					Forget		Forgive
> 
> Individual soldiers, who can		No		Yes
>    be shown to have had no
>    authority
> The German army of WWII in 		No		No
>    general (including SS and others)
> Today's German people who still		No		No
>    hold prejudices against Jews
> Today's other German people		No		yes
> 
> So we won't forget anything, since knowledge is a Good Thing, but we'll
> forgive those who have (as far as can be determined) no guilt.  Isn't this
> nice and fair?
> 
> 	marie desjardins

Forgive those who have no guilt?  How?  They have nothing to be forgiven
for.  If anything, those who condemned those who have no guilt should
ask forgiveness, not presume to grant it.  I have been forgiven for
certain things I did; not because I had no guilt, but precisely because
I did, but the people I hurt loved me enough to accept me anyway.  And
because I asked for forgiveness, and said I would try to do better.

Now the Germans who were not responsible for the holocaust have no
need of forgiveness on that account.  We, on the other hand, who
have been guilty of prejudice, insofar as we lump all Germans
together, need to ask the innocent Germans to forgive us.

And the Germans who were not directly responsible for the holocaust,
but allowed it to happen through inaction, or feel that they were
partially responsible, need, perhaps, our forgiveness.  But we in
turn also need their forgiveness, for I am sure that the rest of
the world has laid more guilt on their shoulders than is theirs
to bear.

And the Germans who *were* directly responsible for the holocaust,
even *they* should be forgiven, if they (sincerely) *ask* forgiveness.
(Determining such sincerity is a non-trivial problem, which I
am disinclined to address at the moment.)  Even the greatest
humanitarian can become a scoundrel; even the worst scoundrel can
become a humanitarian.

Gary Samuelson

mms1646@acf4.UUCP (Michael M. Sykora) (05/07/85)

>/* garys@bunker.UUCP (Gary M. Samuelson) / 12:05 pm  May  6, 1985 */

>And the Germans who *were* directly responsible for the holocaust,
>even *they* should be forgiven, if they (sincerely) *ask* forgiveness.
>(Determining such sincerity is a non-trivial problem, which I
>am disinclined to address at the moment.)  Even the greatest
>humanitarian can become a scoundrel; even the worst scoundrel can
>become a humanitarian.
>
>Gary Samuelson

WHY SHOULD WE FORGIVE THEM?!?!?!

This last paragraph is nonsense!!!  There is no need for or point to
forgiveness here.  Those who were responsible for murder must be put to
death, those who were responsible for torture must be tortured, etc. --
THAT IS ALL!!!

						Michael Sykora