[net.suicide] Have A Happy Day # 1

rh@mit-eddie.UUCP (Randy Haskins) (12/08/83)

About the il/legality of suicide:  it's probably due to the fact
that most people don't know how to deal with it.  Think of how you 
would react if a loved one of your best friend killed him/herself.
You would be pretty stuck on what to say.  You would be worried
that the person blamed him/herself for it, or any such thing like
this.  Personally, I think the way we in this society deal with
Death in general sucks.  Last year, I had to go to two funerals
for grand-relatives in my family.  Even though I loved them both
a lot, I wasn't terribly sad, since both of them had lived full
lives and were deteriorating.  But everyone else (especially their
wives) was all torn up about it.  What are people reacting to?
Is it their sorrow for the pain of the person's death?  (They should
be feeling no pain).  Or is it more like a selfish feeling of loss
of not having the person around?  I would tend to say the latter,
mainly because there are certain areas in which selfishness is 
not discouraged in our society (wanting to have the people you love
around you is not considered selfish, whether or not it makes them
happy....).  Oh, well....
-- 
Randwulf
 (Randy Haskins);  Path= genrad!mit-eddie!rh   or... rh@mit-ee (via mit-mc)

grunwald@uiuccsb.UUCP (12/14/83)

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uiuccsb!grunwald    Dec 13 23:34:00 1983

On sorrow at funerals:

In a certain sense, it is the sorrow of realising that your won't be able to
share your life with the person who died.

In another sense, it is the realisation that, yes, your number is coming up
too.

I suspect that the first is the reason for the immediate tears. I suspect
that both contirbute to the eventual depression afterwards.